Accountability - take responsibility for your own actions

Don't blame others for what is going on in your life, instead own your life from the inside. We have inside us all strength, peace and joy so we don't need to rely on someone else for these qualities. We need to summons the courage to live the life we want to live.  
When something doesn’t go the way we want it to, it is easy to blame someone else. We blame others for our anger, frustration, depression, stress and unhappiness. There are times when other people contribute to our problems, but we have to be big enough to acknowledge that we alone are responsible for our own happiness and our own actions. 
They say, “Circumstances don’t make a person, they reveal him or her.”
Notice what happens when you stop blaming others for anything and everything in your life. You still need to hold people accountable for their actions, but try to hold yourself accountable for your own happiness, your reactions to other people and the circumstances around you.
Blaming others actually wastes a lot of energy, drags you down and creates stress and disease. When you stop blaming others you regain your sense of power, because your happiness is not dependant on the actions and behaviour of others.
Why do we blame others for our unhappiness, anger or stress? Sometimes our ego gets the better of us, and we don’t like to think that we aren’t perfect, that we haven’t ‘got it all together’. If we can put the ego aside for a moment, and treat the moment as a lesson, then we choose growth and perhaps move on to a better place or mood.
The best way to deal with your past failures is to acknowledge them, try and learn and grow from them and move on. If you don’t let go of the past you are doomed to repeat it. Your past only has significance if you give significance to it.
  • "Blame is just a lazy person's way of making sense of chaos." ~ Doug Coupland.
  • "Every man is the architect of his own life. He builds it just the way he wants it. However, after he has built what he wants, he sometimes decides that he doesn't like what he has built and looks for someone or something to blame instead of changing himself." ~ Sydney Madwed.
  • "A man may fall many times but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him." ~  Elmer G. Letterman.
Article by Martine Ford